It’s one of those days, where being a wife and mom are not on the “things I want to be today” list.
You know the kind of day I’m talking about – you’re touched out, have reached a kind of tired that no amount of caffeine can fix, and you need to not be the center of the universe for like, I don’t know, maybe even just a minute, to regain your sanity. I’m right there with you momma – you are not alone.
In the middle of the morning chaos, you mumble that you’d like one quiet morning, where you can just walk out the door, jump in your car, drive through Starbucks or (gasp) maybe even sit-down in Starbucks and enjoy a nice coffee before starting the work day. You can’t even imagine a morning where the kids get dressed and brush their teeth without nagging, haven’t lost their shoes, and understand that when it’s under thirty degrees wearing a coat is not to torture but protect them.
You manage to get everyone in the car and buckled up, scrolling through Spotify to find that one song that keeps everyone happy for the five-minute drive to school and daycare. Morning drop-offs are met with a sigh of relief because you’ll have a few precious moments of peace and quiet before you get to work, and a bit of sadness because your kids turn on the sweetness when they get out of the car to start their day and you don’t really want to leave them. Nothing is sweeter than your almost, too cool for mom, six year old blowing you kisses as he skips into school.
Now I’m not sure what you do after you drop your kids off in the morning, but on days like today I take a minute to scroll back through Spotify and find some non-Kidz Bop version of a song, that might even have some suggestive lyrics and turn it all the way up. And no judgement here on your song choice momma, because mine is usually some Justin Bieber. On the drive between daycare and work, I forget that I’m an almost thirty, wife and mom driving a mini-van.
And this part of the day, where I unintentionally try to blow-out the speakers in the mom van, is how I reset and care for myself. And it’s the most important part of my day especially when I don’t feel like wife-ing or mom-ing. For a few minutes I don’t have to be anything to anyone.
The magic of those minutes of self-care can be seen when I realize that I can in fact handle being a wife and mom, and take on the day with a coffee in each hand.
Take those few minutes today momma. Sit in the quiet, turn up the music, walk around the parking lot – reset yourself. You’ll be thankful you did when the work day is done.