Blessings Learned

Hello, thirties!

A new year is here and with it a new decade for me – today!

Hello, thirties!

My twenties were incredibly busy – losing a grandpa, getting engaged, buying our home, getting married, starting my career, baby one, graduating from college, nervous breakdown, job change, a little grad school, baby two, job change, almost getting divorced, re-finding God, losing a grandma, babies three and four.

I feel overly blessed and exhausted just from typing that.  I accomplished more in my twenties than I ever imagined, but I’m truly looking forward to this time in my life. When I reach the end of my thirties, we will have a junior in high school – what?!? I know that the next decade will be just as busy as the first, just in different ways and I think I’ve learned a few things over the past ten years that will make it a bit easier. Of course, some of that learning is still in progress.

  • God’s love is really the only thing we can be certain of. He forgives our sins and grants us the mercy and grace to forgive ourselves, even when we feel that we are worthy of being forgiven.
  • Saying “yes” to everything doesn’t make you a better person. It makes you a crazy person and it’s totally okay to say no.
  • You can push yourself too far. The crash is hard and real and not something you want to re-live. Know your limits and stick to them.
  • Marriages work much better when you turn them over to God, learn to communicate, and see how much life can suck without your other half.
  • People can change and do change. They can surprise you in ways you’ve never imagined. People are also forgiving and can love you even when you don’t deserve to be loved. (Jeremy Brent, you my dear husband, are the best. Thanks for waking up every day and choosing to love me.)
  • The best moments in life seem to happen when you relax and live in the moment. Kids don’t wait for your load to become lighter to grow up. Step away from the work and play in the sprinkler, give the piggy back ride, look at the stars, bake the cupcakes.
  • Turn the music up as loud as you want and always order dessert (two things I will never regret doing).
  • Find your people (they are out there looking for you too) and love them with everything that you’ve got.

It’s not everyday that you get to enter a new decade. Some people meet these milestones in life with sadness, but today I woke up excited and thankful to be thirty and nothing will change that today. Not the lack of sleep from a fussy baby, the toddler who fell out of bed in the early hours of the morning (she’s fine), or the lack of sugary syrup in my iced coffee this morning.

So, welcome thirties – I’m thrilled to meet you. We are going to have a great time!

 

Blessings Learned

Today

Today, I’m facing a challenge. It’s not a bad challenge but it might be life-altering. It’s terrifying and exciting and overwhelming, and wrapped up neatly into one messy ball.

I’m a perfectionist.

I’m a control freak.

And I’m not perfect and definitely not in control this week. And what’s even more of a challenge for this closet D (personality), other people are going to realize that I’m not perfect or in control. I hate it when people figure that out.

Okay, really they already know that but I have to acknowledge that they know it.

I don’t like that.

But, you know what?

The experiences we can’t control and that aren’t perfect tend to be the ones that grow us. While my experience today has pushed me to the brink of insanity, I’m still alive and I’m growing. And that my friends is pretty great.